Handle exit-seeking by staying calm, finding out where the person wants to go, and guiding them toward a safe alternative. Exit-seeking means repeated attempts to leave a home or care setting, often because the person believes they need to be somewhere else. Treat every attempt seriously without assuming it is deliberate defiance. The Alzheimer's Association reports that six in 10 people with dementia wander at least once, and wandering can become life-threatening.
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Table of Contents
- Look for the need behind the behavior
- Respond without turning it into a confrontation
- Find patterns and plan around them
- Make leaving harder without creating new danger
- Prepare for a missing-person emergency
Look for the need behind the behavior
An attempt to leave usually communicates something, even when the person cannot explain it clearly. Possible causes include anxiety, pain, a toileting need, boredom, memory loss, time confusion, or feeling lost. Past routines may also shape the behavior.
Someone who spent decades leaving for work each morning may still believe a job is waiting. The Alzheimer's Society describes these attempts as responses to needs, emotions, confusion, or familiar routines, rather than purposeless activity. Notice what the person says and does before approaching the door. Looking for a bathroom, gathering a coat, or asking about work may reveal the need you can address.
Respond without turning it into a confrontation
Do not argue about whether the person must leave. Correcting their memory may increase distress without changing what they believe at that moment. Instead, ask a simple question: "Where would you like to go?" Listen for the destination or purpose, then respond to the feeling behind it.
If they say they need to go home, reassurance may work better than insisting they are already home. When conditions allow, walk with them briefly and guide them back safely. Otherwise, redirect them toward another activity connected to their goal: folding clothes before "the trip," having a drink while waiting, or walking in a secure outdoor area.
Find patterns and plan around them
Keep a short record of each episode. Note the time, location, what happened beforehand, what the person said, and what helped.
After several entries, you may see a repeatable trigger. Use those patterns to prepare for high-risk times: A prevention plan must fit the individual. An activity that engages one person may frustrate another, so continue recording what works.
- Offer a meaningful task before the usual attempt begins.
- Schedule exercise or a supervised walk during restless periods.
- Provide reassurance when the person commonly becomes anxious.
- Address possible toileting needs or discomfort.
- Keep familiar routines where they can be followed safely.
Make leaving harder without creating new danger
Use several safeguards rather than relying on one device. The National Institute on Aging recommends options such as door-open alerts, pressure mats, clear room signs, secure outdoor areas, and removing visible departure cues. Keys, wallets, coats, and bags can signal that it is time to leave.
Moving them out of sight may reduce the cue, while signs can make the bathroom or bedroom easier to find. Do not lock a person with dementia inside alone. A locked door can increase the danger from fire, falls, panic, or injury. Any restriction should preserve as much independence as possible and comply with the capacity laws that apply where the person lives.
Prepare for a missing-person emergency
No preventive measure can guarantee that the person will not leave. Keep current identification and contact details, a recent photograph, and a list of nearby familiar or hazardous places. Tell trusted neighbors what to do if they see the person alone, or consider a response service.
If the person disappears, search immediately. Check the immediate area and places they may recognize or where they could face danger. According to the Alzheimer's Association, call 911 if the person is not found within 15 minutes.
