Uncle Joe used to open doors without a second thought, but now he stands there looking confused. What’s going on?
When someone has dementia, their brain changes in ways that affect memory and basic skills. Opening a door may seem simple, but it actually involves several steps our brains normally handle automatically. For someone with dementia, this process can break down.
The disease damages areas of the brain involved in memory, planning, and coordinating movements. So Uncle Joe might forget what a doorknob is for, or struggle to remember the sequence of turning the knob and pulling. His brain may have trouble sending the right signals to his hands to perform the motions.
It’s not that he’s being difficult or lazy. His brain just isn’t working the same way it used to. This kind of forgetfulness often starts with complex tasks and gradually affects simpler ones as the disease progresses.
While it’s frustrating for everyone, try to be patient. Labeling doors or demonstrating the steps can sometimes help. Keeping a routine and familiar environment may also make things easier.
Remember, Uncle Joe isn’t doing this on purpose. His brain is changing, making once-automatic actions confusing. With understanding and some adjustments, you can help him navigate his world more comfortably.
