Why is My Mother with Dementia Rubbing Butter on Her Pillow?
If you’ve noticed your mother with dementia rubbing butter on her pillow, you’re probably feeling confused and concerned. This unusual behavior is actually not uncommon in people with dementia, and there are a few possible explanations for it.
First, it’s important to understand that dementia causes changes in the brain that can lead to strange behaviors. As the disease progresses, people may do things that don’t make sense to us but feel perfectly normal to them[1][3].
One possibility is that your mother is experiencing something called “pica.” Pica is when someone eats or craves non-food items. In dementia, this can extend to rubbing or playing with inedible things too. Your mother might be confusing the butter for something else, or simply find the texture appealing[12].
Another explanation could be that your mother is trying to solve a problem only she perceives. Maybe she thinks the pillow needs “fixing” in some way, and butter is her solution. People with dementia often misunderstand their environment or have false beliefs about what needs to be done[3].
It’s also possible that this behavior is related to past memories or routines. Perhaps buttering things was part of a job she once had, or reminds her of a comforting childhood experience. Dementia can cause people to act out old habits in inappropriate ways[1].
Lastly, this could be a form of sensory seeking behavior. As dementia progresses, people sometimes crave different textures or sensations. The smooth, cool feeling of butter might be satisfying to your mother in some way[3].
Whatever the reason, it’s important not to scold or argue with your mother about this behavior. Instead, try to gently redirect her attention to a safe activity. You might also want to store butter out of reach to prevent messes or accidental ingestion.
If you’re worried about this or other unusual behaviors, it’s always a good idea to consult with your mother’s doctor. They can help rule out any underlying medical issues and offer advice on managing dementia symptoms[3].
Remember, your mother isn’t doing this to be difficult. Dementia can be confusing and frightening for the person experiencing it. Patience, understanding, and professional support can go a long way in helping both of you navigate this challenging time.
