Grandpa’s Hiding Game: Understanding Dementia Behaviors
Have you noticed Grandpa tucking away his glasses in odd places or stashing the TV remote in a kitchen drawer? You’re not alone. Many families caring for loved ones with dementia encounter this puzzling behavior. Let’s explore why this happens and how to handle it.
First off, it’s important to know that hiding things isn’t your grandfather being difficult on purpose. It’s a common symptom of dementia, especially in conditions like Alzheimer’s disease[1]. As the brain changes, it affects memory, thinking, and behavior in ways that can seem strange to us.
So why does Grandpa hide things? There are a few reasons:
1. Forgetfulness: He might put something away for safekeeping but then forget where he put it[3].
2. Feeling insecure: As the world becomes more confusing, he might hide valuable items to protect them[3].
3. Paranoia: Sometimes, dementia can cause suspicion. Grandpa might hide things because he’s worried someone will take them[3].
4. Boredom: Believe it or not, hiding objects can become a way to stay busy or feel useful[3].
5. Reverting to old habits: He might be recreating behaviors from his past, like hiding valuables during wartime[3].
It’s frustrating when you can’t find important items, but try to stay patient. Remember, Grandpa isn’t doing this to annoy you. Instead, think of it as a treasure hunt and try these tips:
• Check common hiding spots: Look in drawers, pockets, shoes, and even the refrigerator[3].
• Keep spare copies of important items like glasses or keys.
• Create a designated “safe spot” for valuables and remind Grandpa to use it.
• Reduce clutter to make hiding harder and finding easier.
• If he’s worried about theft, consider a locked drawer he can access to ease his mind.
Most importantly, don’t scold Grandpa for hiding things. It’ll only increase his anxiety and make the behavior worse[3]. Instead, gently remind him where items belong and offer reassurance.
Caring for someone with dementia is challenging, but understanding behaviors like hiding can help you respond with compassion. Remember, your grandfather isn’t lost – he’s still in there, just navigating a changing world. With patience and love, you can help him feel safe and secure.
