Aunt Martha’s Empty Shopping Bag: A Comforting Companion
Have you noticed your aunt with dementia carrying an empty shopping bag everywhere she goes? This behavior might seem odd, but it’s actually quite common and can serve an important purpose for someone living with dementia.
For many people with dementia, familiar objects provide a sense of comfort and security in a world that often feels confusing or unpredictable[1]. An empty shopping bag may remind your aunt of past routines and experiences, like going to the store or running errands. Holding onto this familiar item can help her feel more grounded and in control.
The shopping bag might also represent your aunt’s desire to maintain independence and a sense of purpose[1]. Even if she’s not actively shopping, carrying the bag allows her to feel prepared and capable of taking care of tasks. This can boost her confidence and self-esteem.
Sometimes, people with dementia may believe they need to be somewhere or do something important. The shopping bag could be your aunt’s way of feeling ready for whatever task she thinks she needs to complete, even if that task only exists in her mind[1].
It’s important to remember that this behavior is harmless and can be quite beneficial for your aunt’s emotional well-being. Instead of trying to discourage her from carrying the bag, you might consider using it as a way to engage with her. You could ask about her favorite stores or shopping experiences, which might spark some pleasant memories and conversations.
If the bag becomes worn or dirty, you might gently offer to replace it with a similar one. Just be sure to introduce the new bag gradually, as sudden changes can be upsetting for someone with dementia.
In the end, your aunt’s empty shopping bag is more than just an object – it’s a source of comfort, familiarity, and purpose in her daily life. By understanding and respecting this, you can better support her as she navigates the challenges of living with dementia.
