Why is my mother with dementia waking up in tears, forgetting who she is?

Dementia can be a challenging and emotional journey, not just for the person experiencing it, but also for their loved ones. If your mother with dementia is waking up in tears and forgetting who she is, it’s likely due to a combination of factors related to her condition.

As dementia progresses, it affects various parts of the brain responsible for memory, emotions, and self-awareness. This can lead to confusion, especially upon waking. Your mother might feel disoriented and scared when she can’t immediately recognize her surroundings or recall who she is.

Sundowning, a common symptom in dementia patients, could also play a role. This phenomenon causes increased confusion, anxiety, and agitation in the late afternoon and evening, which can persist into the night and affect sleep quality. When your mother wakes up, she might still be experiencing the lingering effects of sundowning[1][10].

The emotional impact of memory loss can be overwhelming. As your mother struggles to piece together her identity and memories, she might feel a deep sense of loss and sadness, leading to tears. This emotional response is a natural reaction to the confusion and fear she’s experiencing[7].

Changes in the brain caused by dementia can also affect mood regulation. Your mother might have difficulty controlling her emotions, resulting in sudden bouts of crying or other emotional outbursts[1][7].

It’s important to create a calm and supportive environment for your mother. Establish a consistent routine, keep her surroundings familiar, and provide reassurance when she’s upset. Speak to her doctor about potential treatments or therapies that might help manage her symptoms and improve her quality of life[13][15].

Remember, your mother’s experience with dementia is unique, and it may take time to find the best ways to support her. Be patient, show her love, and don’t hesitate to seek help from healthcare professionals or support groups for caregivers.