Dementia can cause unusual behaviors, and your father stuffing grapes into his pockets is one example of this. This behavior might seem strange, but it’s actually quite common in people with dementia.
As dementia progresses, it affects different parts of the brain, including areas responsible for memory, judgment, and impulse control. This can lead to actions that don’t make sense to others but feel perfectly normal to the person with dementia[1][3].
Your father might be putting grapes in his pockets for a few reasons. He could be saving them for later because he’s worried about not having enough food. Or he might simply forget that he’s already eaten and think he needs to keep food with him. Sometimes, people with dementia collect or hoard items as a way of feeling secure or in control[3].
It’s also possible that your father is experiencing something called “pica,” which is the urge to eat non-food items. While grapes are edible, the behavior of stuffing them in pockets could be related to this condition[13].
This grape-pocketing might also be a form of repetitive behavior, which is common in dementia. Your father might find comfort in the familiar action of picking up grapes and putting them somewhere, even if it’s not where they usually go[1].
It’s important to remember that this behavior, while frustrating, isn’t intentional. Your father isn’t trying to cause problems or make a mess. His brain is processing things differently now.
To handle this situation, try to stay calm and patient. You might gently remind him where grapes belong or offer him a small container to carry them. If the behavior becomes a problem, like if the grapes are getting squashed in his pockets, you could try distracting him with another activity he enjoys.
Always talk to your father’s doctor about new behaviors. They might have additional suggestions or want to check if there are any underlying issues causing this change.
Remember, your father is still the same person, even if his actions seem different now. Treating him with kindness and understanding can help both of you navigate this challenging time.
