Dementia can cause unusual behaviors that may seem puzzling or concerning to family members. If your mother is stacking cans and refusing to let anyone touch them, there are a few potential reasons behind this behavior.
People with dementia often develop repetitive behaviors as the disease progresses. Stacking cans may provide your mother with a sense of purpose, control, and accomplishment in a world that feels increasingly confusing and unpredictable to her[5]. The act of organizing and arranging objects can be soothing and give her a feeling of productivity.
The refusal to let others touch the cans likely stems from a need for consistency and familiarity. As memory and cognitive function decline, maintaining order in her environment becomes very important[5]. The can tower represents something she has created and can control, which may feel comforting.
This behavior could also be related to hoarding tendencies, which sometimes develop in dementia patients. Your mother may feel a strong emotional attachment to the cans or believe they have special significance or value[5]. Trying to remove or rearrange the cans could cause her distress.
It’s important to remember that this behavior, while frustrating for caregivers, is not harmful. Unless the cans are creating a safety hazard, it’s often best to allow the person with dementia to continue their repetitive activities[7]. These behaviors can provide comfort and reduce anxiety.
Instead of trying to stop the can stacking, you might try redirecting your mother’s attention to other engaging activities. Simple tasks like folding towels, sorting objects, or working on a puzzle can provide similar benefits[7]. The goal is to keep her occupied with something that feels meaningful and productive.
If the behavior is interfering with daily life or causing significant stress, speak to her doctor. They may be able to suggest strategies or evaluate if there are underlying issues that need to be addressed. Remember to approach the situation with patience and compassion, recognizing that your mother is coping with a challenging disease in the best way she knows how.
