Why is your father with dementia eating his food with his fingers instead of utensils? This is a common change that many families notice as dementia progresses. Let’s explore why this happens and what you can do to help.
As dementia affects the brain, it can make everyday tasks like using utensils more challenging. Your father might be having trouble remembering how to use forks and spoons properly. It’s not that he’s being difficult – his brain is simply struggling to coordinate the movements needed to eat with utensils[1].
Sometimes, people with dementia may forget what utensils are for or how to start eating. They might look at their plate and feel unsure about what to do next. Using their fingers can feel more natural and less confusing[1].
Dementia can also affect a person’s ability to recognize objects, including eating utensils. Your father might not realize what the fork or spoon on the table is meant for. In this case, using his hands feels like the most straightforward way to eat[1].
As the condition progresses, some people with dementia may have difficulty with depth perception. This can make it hard to judge the distance between the plate and their mouth when using utensils. Eating with fingers eliminates this problem and can feel safer and easier[1].
It’s important to remember that this behavior isn’t intentional or meant to be frustrating. It’s simply your father’s way of adapting to the changes in his brain. In fact, eating with fingers can help maintain some independence at mealtimes, which is crucial for his dignity and self-esteem[1].
To make mealtimes easier, you can try serving more finger foods. Things like sandwiches, fruit slices, cheese cubes, or vegetable sticks are easy to pick up and eat without utensils. This approach can help your father feel more comfortable and enjoy his meals without struggling with cutlery[1].
If you’re concerned about nutrition or hygiene, talk to your father’s doctor or a dietitian. They can offer advice on ensuring he gets a balanced diet while eating with his hands. They might also suggest adaptive utensils that are easier to hold and use[3].
Remember, patience and understanding are key. This change in eating habits is part of the dementia journey, and it’s okay to adjust your expectations. The most important thing is that your father is eating and getting the nutrition he needs, regardless of how he gets the food from his plate to his mouth[1].
By adapting to these changes and creating a supportive environment, you can help make mealtimes more enjoyable and less stressful for both you and your father. It’s all about finding what works best for him in this new stage of life.
