How Experience Culture Made Normal Friendship Boring
Imagine a world where every friendship feels the same. You meet someone, chat about the weather, maybe grab coffee, and then move on. There’s no spark, no inside jokes that make you both laugh until your sides hurt. It’s not that people are unfriendly—it’s just that something is missing.
This is what happens when experience culture takes over normal friendships. Experience culture means we chase after new things all the time: new places to eat, new music to listen to, new trends to follow. We want everything to be exciting and Instagram-worthy. But in chasing those experiences, we sometimes forget how special it can be just to sit with a friend and talk about nothing at all.
Friendships used to grow slowly—like plants in a garden. You would see someone at school or work every day and gradually get closer by sharing small moments: helping each other with homework, complaining about bad days, celebrating little wins together. These everyday interactions built trust and understanding.
Nowadays, friendships often feel like they have to compete with everything else vying for our attention—social media posts of wild parties or exotic vacations make regular hangouts seem boring by comparison. If you’re not doing something “cool” or “unique,” it can feel like your friendship isn’t worth much.
But here’s the thing: real friendship isn’t about always having an adventure or posting perfect pictures online. It’s about being there for each other through good times and bad times alike—even if those times aren’t flashy or exciting.
Experience culture makes us think we need constant stimulation from our friends—that every conversation should be deep or hilarious or life-changing right away. But most of life is made up of ordinary moments: sitting on a couch watching TV together; texting silly memes back and forth; eating pizza while talking about nothing important at all.
When we let experience culture shape how we see friendships too much, normal connections start feeling dull because they don’t measure up against curated highlight reels online or stories from influencers who seem always on some grand adventure with their besties forever squad goals whatever hashtag trend is popular this week!
So next time you find yourself thinking hanging out with your friend seems boring compared what others are doing remember this simple truth real connection doesn’t need fireworks every second sometimes quiet company shared laughter honest conversations matter way more than any viral moment ever could!
