How do you manage a person with dementia who is constantly asking to go out
When caring for a person with dementia who keeps asking to go out, it can be challenging and worrying. This behavior often comes from feelings of restlessness, confusion, or unmet needs. Here are some simple ways to manage this situation with kindness and safety in mind.
**Understand Why They Want to Go Out**
People with dementia may want to leave because they feel anxious, bored, or disoriented. Sometimes they might think they need to go somewhere important or are trying to find someone. Recognizing these feelings helps you respond better.
**Stay Calm and Use Gentle Communication**
Speak softly and calmly. Use short sentences that are easy to understand. Let them know you hear their feelings by saying things like “I see you want to go outside” or “It’s okay; I’m here with you.” Avoid arguing or telling them “no” repeatedly because this can increase their anxiety[1][5].
**Redirect Their Attention**
Try gently shifting their focus from going out to something else enjoyable or calming—like looking at photos together, listening to music they like, doing a simple craft, or taking a walk inside if possible[1][5]. This helps reduce restlessness without confrontation.
**Create a Safe Environment**
Make sure the home is secure so wandering outside doesn’t lead to danger. You can use door alarms, childproof locks on doors leading outside, or motion sensors that alert you if they try leaving unsupervised[2]. Sometimes disguising exit doors by covering them with curtains or murals reduces the urge to leave.
**Keep a Routine and Provide Purposeful Activities**
Having regular daily routines gives structure which lowers confusion and agitation. Include activities that keep them engaged but not overwhelmed—like light gardening indoors, folding laundry together, simple puzzles—or anything meaningful based on their past interests[2][5].
**Consider Outdoor Time in Controlled Ways**
If going outdoors is important for your loved one’s well-being:
– Take short walks together during safe times of day.
– Use safe outdoor spaces like enclosed gardens.
– Consider wearable ID bracelets or GPS trackers as extra safety measures when outside alone might happen accidentally[2].
**Seek Support When Needed**
Caring for someone who wanders can be stressful; don’t hesitate to ask for help from professional caregivers experienced in dementia care who know how best to handle these behaviors safely while respecting your loved one’s dignity[1].
In summary: managing constant requests by someone with dementia wanting to go out means understanding their needs calmly; redirecting attention kindly; securing the environment thoughtfully; maintaining routines filled with purposeful activities; allowing safe outdoor time when possible; and seeking support when needed—all done patiently and compassionately.[1][2][5]
